Relationship

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Relationship! I want to talk about relationships. I know you may be asking yourself what does a nutrition coach have to say about relationships? She isn’t a counselor. You are right, I am not a counselor but I do know about relationships. Everything in our life is a relationship. How we see our self is the relationship you have with yourself. Do you speak to you in a nice or hateful way? When you look in the mirror do you say negative, ugly things to yourself? Something like: “Man you have gained weight.” “Wow, you are ugly.” I really hope not. But I will be honest I have said those things to myself. And when I do, I set a tone for how my day goes and how I allow others to treat me. I walk around with my shoulders slumped and feeling low all day. Why do I allow myself to talk to me that way? I don’t know, but I promise you if someone said that to my daughter and I heard them…. Man, Hell hath no fury like this momma jumping in to defend my daughter! That person would think twice about ever saying anything in front of me ever again. And honestly, I would have a very hard time ever forgetting what they said to my daughter. I would NEVER just stand there and allow my daughter, my son, my friend, my husband, or even the stranger in the store be spoken to that way and not jump in. Yet, I spoke to myself that way.

The one person that I never get a break from is ME. I am with me always. Should I not think I am worth having a respectful conversation with? I am. I am changing the way I see myself and talk to myself. How can I make changes in my life if I don’t see value in me? I see so much value in others. The first relationship we must work on is the relationship we have with our self. Value who you are. Value what you do. Value YOU. There is only one of you in the world and the world needs you as you are. When you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like, say “I see this area I want to change but in the meantime it’s okay and I will work on it.” I have brown spots in my yard because it’s been hot and dry. I want them to go away but I am not going to go out and yell at the yard that it is ugly and brings shame to my house. If I want them changed, I will take the hose and water the spots and help them to heal. Don’t you deserve more than your yard? I KNOW you do. Love yourself enough to accept you and take the time and the effort to change what you want to change. Change only what you want changed, not because someone else wants it changed.