Quiet-time

Quiet-time

What is quiet-time and why does it matter? It seems silly to say, “Okay look to break out of people-pleasing, we need to have some quiet time.” But seriously, that’s one of the keys to breaking out of people pleasing. What does quiet-time do? First...
Say NO!

Say NO!

Saying no seems impossible at times. It’s just easier to do it than fight it. The problem is you then become overcommitted, stressed, and feeling bad about yourselves. When did NO become a bad word? Ah, when you looked at those you loved and didn’t like to see the...
Self-Care

Self-Care

Hey, so what is self-care and why does it matter that we do it when we’re trying to move out of people pleasing? Well, there’s a lot of reasons. The problem is when we’re people pleasing, we are only thinking about everyone else’s needs, and we...
Worthy

Worthy

People-pleasing is about putting more value on others than you do yourself. You do not make a conscious decision to do so. It’s unconscious conditioning. It starts as little girls when we are told to be quiet and think about others people first. You are told things...
Boundaries

Boundaries

This is the hardest post for me. This is still a struggle, but I am getting stronger. My childhood was less than ideal. I had no idea what a healthy boundary was because it was easy to set others off if I stated my wishes or wants. Therefore, I learned never to do so....